Write to Hold Your Centre
Hello Dear One,
Take a deep inhale. And exhale. Repeat for as long as you like. Feel your feet rooted on the earth. Remember you are here, your heart is beating. And there is always time to breathe.
Now, there’s a lot happening, isn’t there? I thought it might be helpful to tell you how I’m staying afloat.
First, I’m limiting my news intake. I have a physical reaction when I see the red and white BBC banner (other news sites are available) and know there are thousands of difficult things to watch. All I need are the facts. There’s something in thinking about what you consume and I encourage you to question things you navigate to daily. Do they make you happy?
Second, I remember I’m not in the thick of it. I can’t take on someone else’s pain and they can’t take on mine. I’d never want them to. Instead, I’d say - take good care of yourself and lean into as much joy as you can. I went through a time in my life where everything fell apart, when I wanted it all to stop. It wasn’t that long ago, in the scheme of things. And yet I’m surviving a new lockdown. Scrap that, I’ve come into this year with an open heart, pursuing the things I love; I’m doing great. So, be joyous.
Third, I celebrate the wins. Even tiny ones. I ordered a new pair of trainers and they arrived with a free pair of socks, win; I got out in the snow, tipped my head to the sky and felt snowflakes on my face, win; I edited a page of my novel and lost track of time, win. I could curl up under the duvet and do nothing at all, I acknowledge everything I do beyond this, every ounce of being in the world.
Fourth, I make time for things that lift my heart: writing, reading, listening to music, yoga, nature walks…just writing this list makes me feel better. I’m also watching things that make me laugh, remembering to find lightness. Staying grounded in the things we love means we can connect to our true selves, and be consistent for others.
Now, it’s your turn.
When I did this exercise I felt focused and motivated, but I also recognised my vulnerability. I’ve given myself a lot to do this month and could easily become overwhelmed. Focusing on one thing reminds me I can choose where to spend my time, what to pursue and what to put on hold. I am more important than what I produce - and so are you.
So, that is how I hold my centre. No matter what else is going on, I recommit to what’s important to me. I make sure I show up for myself. I fight for myself. This might not be revolutionary or exciting, but it does help.
One final tip I have is to schedule rest, and more of it than usual. We’re still living through extraordinary events and downtime is vital. Not thinking about anything time. I know this might seem hard, particularly if you have different people or demands vying for your attention, but you have to be ok first.
Thanks for being here and being you.
All love,
Jo
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