Write for sustainable self-love
The thing is, you have to ACT LIKE you care about yourself too, here's how I learnt that lesson again.
Hello Dear One,
One of my aims in life is to have the same kind of love for myself that my dog has for me (right now her little head is resting on my arm as I type). Unconditional and consistent.
For someone who spent decades spiralling into self-criticism and never feeling good enough, I’ve come a long way. My shift into self-compassion (head to the archives for more) and coaching mean that no matter what, I’ve got myself.
And self-love is a practice.
It’s easy to fall back into old patterns.
And there might be fierce, destructive stories hiding underneath them.
I shared last week that I’m going to America soon. And this mucky truth is one of the big reasons:
I was telling myself I wasn’t beautiful enough.
Not beautiful enough to go, not beautiful enough to be there, not – perhaps – beautiful enough to deserve it.
The thing is, I grew up comparing myself to girls on American TV shows (Dawson’s Creek, The O.C., Gossip Girl…) and felt so self-conscious that I’d never look like them. My teenage brain said: that’s what good looks like and that’s not you.
And I don’t live there anymore.
As soon I knew that story was running I booked a flight.
Because my self-criticism doesn’t get to call the shots and that story doesn’t get to live in my body or heart.
The prompts above are a beautiful sequence to work through and I’d love to know how you find them – comment or hit reply.
For me, self-love is less about standing in front of the mirror and saying nice things and more about showing up.
Showing up and advocating for myself.
Seeing myself in my beautiful human messiness and letting all of it be welcome.
Having my back when life happens and I don’t behave the way I want to.
Thanks for being here and being you.
All love,
Jo
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